Why Does My Autistic Child Love Frozen So Much?
It's the 847th viewing. You know because somewhere around 200, you started keeping track—a small act of sanity preservation. The opening notes of "Let It Go" drift from the living room, and your child is frozen in place, eyes locked on Elsa, lips moving silently with every word.
You watch them watching her. The way their whole body relaxes when Elsa throws off her gloves. The way they rewind "Show Yourself" four times in a row, something flickering across their face that you can't quite name. Last week, they asked you—out of nowhere—"Mom, do you think Elsa was scared people would hate her powers?"
And suddenly you realize: they're not just watching a movie. They're watching themselves. They're watching what it might feel like to stop hiding.
If you've ever stood in a doorway, watching your child find something in a Disney princess that they can't yet find in the mirror, you already know this isn't about a movie. It's about survival. It's about hope.
Understanding What's Happening
The parallel between Elsa's journey and the autistic experience runs deep. "Conceal, don't feel, don't let them know" isn't just a catchy lyric—for many autistic children and adults, it describes a survival strategy they've internalized before they even have words for it. The movie captures something essential about masking, about the exhaustion of hiding who you are, and about the complicated liberation that comes with finally letting that mask fall.
Children often gravitate toward stories that help them process their own experiences, even when they can't articulate why. When an autistic child watches Elsa's story repeatedly, they may be rehearsing their own liberation. When they hear "Show Yourself," they might be absorbing the possibility that their differences have a reason, and that reason isn't something to fix—it's something to understand.
For autistic parents raising autistic children, this recognition can be especially powerful. You see your child not despite your neurodivergence, but because of it. The ability to articulate the liberation in "Let It Go" while also holding space for the isolation in it—that's the kind of nuanced understanding that helps children feel truly seen. Not just loved, but known.
There's also a tender complexity here that deserves acknowledgment: the experience of standing outside a shutdown, reaching for connection while respecting autonomy. That tension between loving someone fiercely and accepting that love doesn't always mean access—that's one of the most complicated parts of this journey. Struggling with that doesn't make you selfish. It makes you human.
Strategies That Often Help
You can gently lean into your child's connection with these stories by occasionally wondering aloud together ("I wonder how Elsa felt when..."), letting them lead the conversation if they want, or simply sitting in the shared experience without needing to explain it.
The key is following their lead. If they want to talk about why they love the movie, create space for that. If they just want to watch it in companionable silence, that's valuable too. Sometimes the processing happens internally, and our job is simply to be present.
For autistic parents navigating this alongside their children: your insight is a superpower. Your lived experience gives you a window into your child's world that can help them feel truly understood. Trust that perspective—it's one of the most powerful gifts you can offer.
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